How many times have you heard a person offer every excuse in the world for not changing something they are doing, not dropping a habit they need to quit or even refusing to be open to talking about changing things up?
Leaders know they have to change. Great leaders help others learn how to change.
Some of the most talented people in the world often self-destruct because they resist or refuse to change and alter their behavior or action because they don’t want to get uncomfortable.
The reasons are numerous. People don’t like to lose control. People don’t like uncertainty. It will take too much work. They don’t understand why change is needed. Pride. Ego. They are threatened by the need to change. Ouch, ouch, ouch!
Here’s three myths about change. Now, brace yourself because you might not like what you are about to read. However, I want you to really think about what I’m about to share with you on this front.
Change takes time. Hmmm … false! Change happens instantly. You make changes all the time even if you don’t realize it. It happens in a snap. When you get new information you didn’t have previously, you change your thinking. This can be info about a person, a project at work or even your weekly activity.
You analyze, adjust and pivot without really thinking a whole lot about it, even if you don’t realize you are changing. Realizing how much you actually change will help you make other decisions to change in many other areas of your life.
People have to want to change. Umm … false! How many times has something you perceived as negative happened to you, and you got through it? Situations, circumstances and hurdles pop up all the time in your life if you step back and think about it. Guess what? When it happens you magically change because you have to change. What if you could change before it was a necessary evil? You would see positives from doing this.
You have to hit rock bottom. False, false, false!!! Most of the time you can see signs that change is needed way, way, way before you are even close to hitting rock bottom. Most people only hit rock bottom because they refuse to adapt and change, even though they know change was needed. If you are thinking you need to make changes, then Nike it! Just Do It!
NC State University’s motto is “Think and Do.” I encourage you to adapt that phrase in your life. Be willing to change when you start seeing signs that things are not going your way. Adjust what you are doing in an effort to get better results.
When does change happen?
Most people change when it’s good for them and there is something to gain by changing. Ask yourself, “What’s in it for me?” Write down and visualize the payoff of changing, then make changes! If it doesn’t work, you can always revert back to old behavior and activity.
Be confident, creative and persistent when it comes to change. If you can do this consistently, I believe a person can see dramatic, if not miraculous, changes in their personal and professional life.