December 26, 2018
I am releasing my fourth book titled, “The Alliance House of Values and Behaviors in late January. In it, I outline what each of The Alliance’s eight core values means and how they pertain to what our company does together and for our clients all over the United States. Previously, I’ve covered Excellence, Service, Integrity and Accountability. This week, I’m going to write about Respect.
For each of our eight values, I’m picking a person in history that I believe best represents each value that The Alliance believes in strongly.
The following is from my new book I co-wrote with Jeff Bright:
Gandhi said, “My life is my message.”
The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines respect like this: to consider worthy of high regard, or an act of giving particular attention.
Respect is a quality or trait that starts inside of you. When you have the proper amount of self-respect, then you are able to extend the same courtesy to those inside your circle and even people you don’t know.
The amount of respect you show to others speaks volumes to how much you value the person you are dealing with. It is really an evaluation you are attaching to a person. There are several factors that come into play when dealing with the level of respect you show people.
Some ways we gauge the respect we show others is based on the following:
Are they honest?
Are they considerate of others?
Are they responsible?
Are they caring and understanding of others?
Are they goal oriented?
One historical figure that showed great respect to other people is Mahatma Gandhi (Oct. 2, 1869-Jan. 30, 1948). He preached non-violence at a time when many cultures were being beyond violent toward those with opposing views. Gandhi used a simple list of 10 rules he believed could help a single person change the world for the better.
Gandhi’s 10 Rules To Change The World
You are in control
Forgive and let it go
Without action, you aren’t going anywhere
Take care of this moment
Everyone is human
See the good in people and help them
Be congruent, be authentic, be your true self
Continue to grow and evolve
Gandhi was born and raised in a Hindu merchant family in coastal Gujarat, India. He trained in law at the Inner Temple, and first employed non-violent civil disobedience as an expatriate lawyer in South Africa. He returned to India in 1915 and started protesting with farmers and laborers against excessive land-taxes and discrimination. In 1921, Gandhi assumed leadership of the Indian National Congress and led nationwide campaigns for social causes.
Gandhi led Indians in challenging British-imposed salt taxes in 1930, and eventually was imprisoned for years in South Africa and India for leading these movements. Gandhi lived modestly in a residential community and wore the traditional Indian dhoti and shawl, with a hand-spun charkha. His diet was simple vegetarian food, and he went on long fasts as a way of self-purification and political protest.
Gandhi continued pushing for India’s independence well into the 1940s. Eventually, Britain granted independence, but the British Indian Empire was split into two dominions – a Hindu-majority India and Muslim-majority Pakistan. With many displaced Hindus, Muslims and Sokhs finding their way to new lands, religious violence broke out. Gandhi visited these areas, attempting to keep things peaceful. Gandhi went on several fasts in an effort to stop religious violence at the age of 78.
Some thought Gandhi was too accommodating toward India and the lack of payment it gave to Pakistan, which led to a Hindu nationalist assassinating Gandhi in 1948.
Gandhi dedicated his life to discovering the searching for truth, or Satya. His teachings and beliefs were adopted globally by other movements, including Martin Luther King, Jr.
Gandhi navigated the independence movement in the 1930-40s by speaking softly, standing up to British colonialists with strong speeches and non-violent protests. He is often named among the 20th century’s most important figures and is heavily revered in India as a father of the nation.
Gandhi practiced what he preached to the world. When he took a stand for or against something he backed it up with his words and actions. He didn’t sit on the sideline and watch. He treated those less fortunate than him with the same level of respect he toward world leaders at the time. All lives mattered to Gandhi, and they deserved to be respected too.
What if you were able to apply Gandhi’s 10 Rules To Change The World in your life? Do you think the world would be a better place? Do you think the level of respect you show to people you encounter on a daily basis would be improved? Would you be a better person?
I encourage you to know that you can change yourself now. You have the control to be better each day. When you feel like a person hurts you, lies or doesn’t treat you fairly; can you quickly forgive, let go and move on in a positive direction?
Can you start taking action faster when you know it is time to do so? Without moving, you aren’t going to get anywhere. Practice living in the moment, so that you are truly present when it comes to those in your environment. Make every effort to recognize that everyone is human and will make mistakes. Treat people fairly, and certainly the way in which you would like to be treated.
Be persistent in doing your very best each day, and give others the same respect you expect in return. Be willing to find the good in people, and not only focus on areas where improvement is necessary. Most people know they need to improve in certain areas, and they might not appreciate you pointing out their flaws. Instead, give people a little honey to offset the vinegar that is obvious to the world.
Believe in your heart that people have good inside them and help them bring it out for the world to see. People need encouragement and they will deliver on a bigger level if you encourage them and tell them you believe in them. They will be more likely to return the encouragement in your direction when you need it too.
Keep growing as a person, as a leader and teammate. We all need to evolve as people because that is how you keep growing and changing. We are not where we should be today, but we can get to where we want to be if we keep working hard to change for the better.
All these simple steps can help you become better with people, and they will help make sure that you are treating people with the proper level of respect. Make it part of your daily routine to extend the utmost respect to people you encounter. You might be surprised at the response you get from those who are treated unfairly by most of the world around them.
POSTSCRIPT: I’m not asking you to live your life like Gandhi. Few people can live up to the standard he set. However, I am asking you to get a little bit better each day. If you can improve just a little bit daily, soon you will not even remember the person you were in the past.
That’s some of what I wrote to help illustrate Respect in my new book. There’s a lot more to help explain what it means to operate with respect in the book. I hope that many of you will consider picking up a copy of The Alliance House of Values & Behaviors. I believe this book will kick start an amazing start in 2019. We’ve spent months putting this book together, and I am so excited to share the final product with the world.