Why Some Make It And Others Don’t?

Growing up, I wanted to find a way to be free to do what I wanted to do. I wanted to be able to do things EXACTLY when I wanted to do it. This is a hard goal to reach. I still haven’t exactly figured it out yet. But, I...

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Growing up, I wanted to find a way to be free to do what I wanted to do. I wanted to be able to do things EXACTLY when I wanted to do it. This is a hard goal to reach. I still haven’t exactly figured it out yet. But, I am closer than most people will ever get.

I gave up a lot of time to get to this point. I missed things that others are not willing to miss. I wanted to miss little things then so that I could do big, amazing things now.

When people ask me if it was worth the work it took, I tell them quickly that it was worth it.

So, I have two questions to pose in this blog post. Why do some people make it and some people fail? Also, what would I tell people that I care about and people who I want to make it big and enjoy insane success?

This is a topic I discussed in depth on Episode 180 of my The Wednesday Call podcast. I encourage you to listen to it if you haven’t already, or check it out again after reading this blog.

Most people put a high value on friendship. We all have them. Most of us want them and need them! We are connected to some people more than others. We value friendships more than acquaintances. When it comes to being successful, it helps to have great friends, relationships and trust. All three play a vital role and are critical to your success.

Do you consider yourself a good communicator? How about listening … you good at that? Most people think they are, but that’s the problem. Thinking either one has happened is a major mistake.

Do you consider yourself a good communicator? How about listening … you good at that? Most people think they are, but that’s the problem. Thinking either one has happened is a major mistake.

Ludwig van Beethoven wrote a lot of great music, but I am partial to a quote from him where he said, “We all make mistakes, but everyone makes different mistakes.”

It’s hard to argue with that statement.

We view other people’s mistakes differently than our own. Most of the time, we judge more harshly if it a person we don’t really know. That’s why having perspective is so important. Judging people is dangerous. We all do it, but we have to be very careful when we do this.

Your daily goal is to get better at relationships and to keep forming new friendships. The more friends you have, the more selective you can be about the people you spend your time around. I have talked to my children about this since they were knee high. It doesn’t matter how much you try to avoid it, you will become most like those you spend the most time around. That is why you have to get around people that are more successful than you are. It will help you continue improving yourself. You will perform at a higher level.

Why do people wait to take action? People wait to do their taxes each April. How many people wait until Christmas Eve to go shopping? There are so many examples of people waiting to take action. It makes no sense to put things off when you are better off to knock them out right now.

When people get a feeling, it seems like they spring into action. When progress is made, a person gains confidence. Look out, they keep doing stuff. They get projects done. There’s nothing magical about it, other than the effort they put in yielded results.

Too many people are waiting on a feeling to take action. They want to have belief or trust before they move. This takes too long. More people need to act their way into a feeling rather than waiting for a feeling to move. People that do are more likely to succeed.

Excuses halt everything. It’s why more isn’t accomplished daily. I like to focus on the part where you get stuff done. Smother excuses. Focus on the part where you take action. Help others take action too. Share your belief in them early and often, until they give you a reason not to trust in them.

Some people are “dumb enough” to do something without needing evidence like a lot of so-called “smart people” want before they act. Waiting creates weight, and that prevents progress. The world needs people to fail faster, so they can get back up and keep going. Eventually, with adjustments, success will come. That’s how it works.

The best time to start something is now!!!

Do you know a person that places blame on everything in the world but the person (THEM) who is really at fault for a shortcoming? If you don’t put the blame on you first, then you are not addressing the real problem. When you take ownership for why you are not where you want to be, then you can work on improving. Blamers tend to get bitter. People that accept blame tend to get better. I want you to get better!

Do you care about other people? Do you care enough to reach out to people to try to help them? This takes work, and it is not easy. Believe me, I have been there and done it so many times. It takes practice to get really good at it. You have to get better at figuring things and people out. The faster you can do this, the less painful it will be for you and them!

Are you able to avoid the “ditches” of life?

The most successful people are those who don’t get too high and don’t get too low. They don’t believe their press clippings or personal headlines. You want to stay in the middle and not go off the rails like a lunatic. One component of that is your coping skills and how you handle adversity.

How do you respond under pressure? How a person behaves in that moment is normally a good indicator of the kind of person you are dealing with.

More people need to believe without proof. The more you can do this, the more successful you can be. If you can master dealing with stressful situations, you will be set up for success. The ability to pivot can make all the difference in enjoying success versus being a failure. It’s OK to fail, but it’s not OK to repeat the same mistake. You have to learn from the setback. If you can roll with the punches it will annoy people to no end. However, you will be better off, and you will set the example of how to cope with drama moving forward.

Do you take lemons and whip up a great pitcher of lemonade? That’s a skill we all need to master. When life goes the wrong way, how do we respond?

Taking a bad situation and make the best of it is a skill that few can master. If you can do this, you will win more than you ever thought possible. Don’t get paralyzed in the moment and suffer because of it.

Accept the situation and figure out what to do next. Having the right mindset will determine where you go when you face a struggle or difficulty. Don’t sweat it and don’t stir it too soon. I’ve said that a million times. Let it sit for a little bit and then clean up the mess. Operate with an adult mindset instead of using a toddler mindset.

Shape your mind and thoughts around the thinking that gets you on the good side of life. Having the right balance will help swim or sink. It is a choice. It can be learned. It is about establishing patterns in all that you do. If you keep practicing, you will find the way to win.

People that “Do The Do” get to enjoy the fun stuff. Now, that doesn’t mean life is all about possessions, but it does allow you more choices than most people get to enjoy. If you sit idle, then you will be limited in about everything you can think of. When you get stuff done, you get to make more choices and you have more options.

The prize is typically reserved for those that take action quickly. The faster you move, the more you can accomplish. When you keep going and doing, things happen more for you than others who choose to sit and stew. Things will not change until things change. We all have to make a decision to make changes if we want to get different results.

“Are you able to avoid the “ditches” of life?”

Who you hang around will determine who your friends are. What you do determines where you go. What you do helps others decide if they want to spend time around you too. Make it your goal to be the person that others think of first when they decide to throw a party! That means you are like and probably loved.

What you read, watch and listen to is the fuel you allow in your head. It will impact your behaviors and actions. Work to get around the right information so you can grow. If you work hard, focus on the basics and don’t quit, you will win. The key is to be fanatical about doing the basics it takes to win. It’s the best way to set yourself up for success and winning.

At the end of the day, you are the one that decides if you win or not. It is your choice.

1 comment
  1. Miranda Dominguez
    Miranda Dominguez
    October 5, 2019 at 8:31 pm

    I really needed to read this! I appreciate you writing this blog and I thank you for being an Awesome Role Model!

    Reply
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