April 18, 2016
There is something you have to understand in life. You are going to make mistakes and disasters. You are not always going to do things 100 percent right all the time.
The sooner you realize this, accept it and start working to make things happen, the better off you will be.
You are going to say the wrong thing to the wrong person and it is going to hurt.
You are going to do something to your spouse and it will cause an argument.
You are going to try something and it will backfire.
You are going to watch television when you should be doing something productive. There’s so many good shows you can watch and you get sucked in by the entertainment value.
It’s OK. Get over it! Forgive yourself and stop dwelling on what happened in the past. Learn to let it go. Today is a new day!
If I was not good at letting myself off the hook, I would be a mess. I am a mess, but I am good at letting myself off the hook. If I wasn’t good at letting myself move on then I’d be in trouble. Be quick about it so that you can move on to the work you need to do.
The other night I was doing something I shouldn’t and I stopped myself and said, “I’m going to do better tomorrow.” I got up the next day and I said I’m going to do better today than yesterday. I told my wife, Jane about it. I told my kids. I told anybody that would listen. That whole day I predicted I was going to be better and I was.
Now, I am confident that I’m going to mess up again and you are too. You have to quit beating yourself up about yesterday. It’s gone. You can’t change it. You and I don’t have time for that.
Tell yourself you are going to do better next time. Admit you did something wrong and tell yourself to move on and do better next time.
When people try to engage in conversation that doesn’t matter to you, don’t make the mistake of getting sucked into their drama. Just nod your head, think about something else and say “um hmm.” Next, start doing what you are supposed to be doing. Don’t think about past mistakes. Keep moving forward. Figure out what you need to do right then, at that very moment and focus on that! You haven’t been perfect. You are not going to be perfect. Don’t worry about it.
What do you need to do next to change your life? Stay focused. Get on task and work until you are finished. Just do it!
One of my friends is a one-legged downhill skier. Do you think she falls down a lot? She does. Guess what else she does a lot? She gets up … over and over and over!
Decide that when life knocks you down that you are going to get up. Quit thinking that you are somebody that you aren’t. Stop it! Find out what you need to do next and do that. Tell yourself this: “I’m not perfect, but what do I have to do now?” What’s next and what’s most important? Make it a point to plan out your day strategically. You can remember your mistakes, but please do not dwell on them. Focus on what’s next and what has to get done today. What would change your life today? Stop talking about your mistakes because it does you no good. Focus on the do and stay on that path. When you find yourself messing up again, STOP it and get back on the right track.