You have choices

 

A lot of people don’t consider this, but let me explain a big concept to you: Every opportunity you have in life isn’t always the right or best thing for you to do.

Seriously? Yes! Believe it or not, you have choices in life!

It’s hard to believe, but some people don’t know that you get to decide. Did you know that? You get to make choices about what you are doing and where you are going. You get to pick.

You Have Choices

Every decision is a decision. Every non-decision is actually a decision. Everything you do or don’t do is a decision. When my phone rings and I look down, I either take the call or I don’t. Either way, I’ve made a decision. I think about it and I either act or don’t. Regardless, my action or lack of action is a decision.

Maybe you want to go to a meeting. On this particular night, your wife and family want you to do something at home and you are left with a choice. Now, you have to decide what is the right thing to do. Maybe you aren’t sure what to do, so you go to the meeting because you couldn’t decide. That was a decision.

People think that is confusing. I have to get up and do stuff. That’s how you become successful. You get up and do things. You get things accomplished. When people see you doing that they react differently to you. They see you doing stuff and it gives them a pull.

People react to courage and they follow people that make courageous decisions to go no matter what. People that stay up a little later and get up a little earlier. Now, is making phone calls courageous? YES!!! Why? It is because you call people up and they tell to never call them again. You stay calm and keep talking like a warrior in battle as bullets are flying by with chaos all around them. Some people call that dumb. I call it being dumb enough to make it big. You just have to take it and move on. No big deal. Just making calls and trying to help people.

People will try to influence you in a negative way. It might even be loved ones or your family. It could be neighbors or whoever, but you make the decision to keep doing and moving forward. Decide to do what you have to do and try to get their thinking out of your head. That’s courageous.

How about the decision to be committed or to be uncommitted? You are one of the two. You can control it. It’s one of the two. You are committing to something no matter what. I try to pick a direction I’m going and get after it.

When I decide something ahead of time I tend to follow through on it. If I tell myself I’m going to read tonight then I will probably do it. If I tell people that I’m going to read, I’m more likely to do it. If I book a flight, then I’m probably not going to miss the flight. I’ve spent time and money, so I’ve got skin in the game and I’m going to make my flight. See, there’s a price to pay for everything. It could be money, sleeping less, etc. You have to ask yourself this: What are you trying to accomplish? Decide that and get focused on that.

I’ve told many of you how to make excuses when you are dealing with people that are trying to get you off track. You can say things like, “I’m sorry but I have a previous engagement.” You have to learn how to put off or delay dumb actions. Put off or find ways to avoid associating with people that are doing the wrong things, have poor attitudes and pathetic relationships. Put it off. Say things like, “How about next week? I’m tied up this week.”

How long do you do this? How about forever! At least put it off until later, so that you don’t have to do it now.

Here’s a common situation: couple is married and the wife wants the husband to stay at home all the time and still make money. The husband doesn’t want to do that. Instead of compromising, they get a divorce! What the heck? Can we not find a solution to this and do something in between those two extremes?

Here’s another one: Let’s say an uncle dies and you are trying to decide if you are going to the funeral. What if you weren’t close to him and hadn’t seen him in years? Are you going to drive a pretty good distance, take food, cry, mourn, etc.? Other people might say don’t go, don’t think about them and don’t care about the family. Can we meet somewhere in the middle? It doesn’t have to all the way left or all the way right. Hey, could we send a gift and pray for them. Could we call them? Could we go to the funeral and then come back home right after? There are options in the middle that are better solutions than the crazy extremes. The key is that you are in control of the decision. Don’t let others decide for you.

I ask people if they would go to a meeting in another part of the country every week, hire people and help them get started with The Alliance? They say, “No! I’m not going up there.” Hey, can we do something in the middle instead? Maybe run an ad and go one time? It doesn’t have to be the extremes. Can you control what you do and avoid the extremes? You’ve got choices and options. Think it through. Think about the worst-case scenario and the best-case scenario … look at the options in between those too.

What you can control is more than you realize. What you can control impacts your future and your life more than you think. During those hyped-up moments, work on making decisions that are good for the rest of your life. If you can get good at making decisions and focusing on the outcome, then your life will be a whole lot easier.

Stay committed or stay uncommitted. You get to pick. You get to choose. I have to make decisions all the time. If I didn’t, I would start going backward. Get your mind in a positive place and start making better decisions to do better things in your life. Deciding to take better actions will change your whole life.

I know this: you either have reasons or results. People think I’m talking about excuses. No! I’m talking about legitimate reasons or legitimate results. It’s that simple.

17 thoughts on “You have choices

  1. Ken Kreitz

    Andy, Thank You!! You really are an inspiration and a mentor to me and so many others. YES, we have choices and for those of us who are wired as “creative” AND “analytical”, having too many choices makes prioritizing those choices challenging….and exhausting I might add! Will be traveling the world with you SOON and at rocket speed…well OK blowing up like Mt. Fuji!

  2. Russ Dierenfeldt

    This is something I have always tried to live and teach. Make a decision before you have to make a decision. You hit the nail on the head. We must be comitted to something in life and learn how to expand it to something great. Shelley and I are in 100% and love love love the Alliance. Thanks for your leadership!!!

  3. Christina

    Andy,
    I agree with this completely. I want to read this over and over until it is memorized. This is great encouragement for me. Thank you for all that you do!

  4. Ray Hoskins

    Thanks for these encouraging words.

    I particularly liked…”When I decide on something ahead of time I tend to follow through on it.”

  5. Vi Moreno

    You could not of said it better. alot of this identifies of what i have allowed to become a part of my life which seems a part of my job. I hunger for the fire to get out and protect families. I started 15 years ago and this is it.
    I am speechless. but i am determined to one day live my dream.

  6. Montoya Christian-Boyd

    Andy,

    You are so correct! What you think about you bring about whether good or bad. When you change how you think about things you change your life. Committing or not committing is truly a choice. The question we should ask ourselves is what I doing working for me right now! If not then change to commit to whatever that goal or dream is. But do something and stay focused!!! Montoya

  7. Cassandra Mullen

    What I found the most helpful about this was the funeral example. I often struggle with scheduling my time and it’s because I’m either “all the way to the left or all the way right.”
    This week my goal is going to be finding the middle ground when it comes to family obligations so that I can be successful!

  8. Paul Minichino

    Love this Andy!!!
    Choices… I choose to go 100% for the next 90 Days
    Who’s coming with us?
    Thank you for pouring into us while your traveling the world. I too will pass this on and become a river 🙂

  9. G Chris Robinson

    PUNCH me right in the THROAT!
    This blog was published for me , no doubt. You’re exactly right….Now I only have 2 choices….
    I choose to STAY committed rather than be un-committed. When I am committed, Im happier,
    healthier and richer. Life will FLY RIGHT BY those un-committed folks and they will wake up one
    day still wondering WHY they never “made it”. Wow….Im ready to rock this this even more.
    Love ya Andy and THANKS AGAIN!!

  10. Jerry Henry

    Thank you Andy,AWESOME…When your truly inspired,have a big dream,and have The Alliance family always willing to guide and help you,your focus becomes clearer and the right decisions become easier… Never give up that DREAM…

  11. Patrick Connors

    What if I get ONE MORE PERSON to read Andy’s note today? What could happen? I’m in a hyped-up moment right now–what good decision can I make? This–I’m going to ask a friend if he can read Andy’s message today, and then I’m going to ask him if he would do the same!!! Thank you, Andy–my favorite part was the section on EXAMPLES…real life scenarios where we get to decide. I believe you could write a whole book about decisions–I hope you do!

  12. Mary-Carol Corder

    WooHooo!!! Andy, whenever I read your words of inspiration it seems like your words are just so appropriate for that very same day! The words “commit to being committed” say it all – you’re either “committed to being committed” or “committed to being uncommitted” – it’s one or the other. And as long as you keep “doing the do” and don’t quit you will succeed in this business. Don’t waste even one day being non-committed… keep your eye on the prize of having your own agency and never ever give up your dreams!!! Thank you for allowing us to succeed!!!

  13. Alex Ellenburg

    Every day, in any situation are minutes, even hours where our decisions are more productive or less productive. Audios, Client calls, reading, NAAU, recruiting or building calls. I have had REASONS health issues, family event (loved one passing) dominating time, etc. but I still HAVE those hours and minutes that somehow are tempting to do something less productive. Hour long conversation with grandmother while grandfather is in hospital- running in circles and negativity. There’s somewhere in the middle I can go; We can go. Most of us are those people- that step up in our families when things go wrong while the rest of the family sets at home watching tv, well, there’s STILL hours, drives, and minutes -work- that could be done: thanks Andy. We don’t HAVE to do anything but make a decision to undecide or decide to do what’s best. Even when the reasons appear bigger than work, I’m gonna undecide to let them dominate my time and keep learning and keep calling and keep deciding to move up, not backwards against any “obstacle.” If you’re waiting for the smoke to clear- you’ll never see daylight, time to stumble out of the burning building one way or another.

  14. Dawnn Hills

    Andy…You are an inspiration…I am so happy to be a member of the Alliance!
    When I listen to you speak…I am inspired to do all that I can to Sell Recruit & Build…I know without a shadow of a doubt you and Fitz with lead them to success!

    Wishing US continued Success & Prosperity now and forevermore
    Cheers~
    Dawnn Hills

  15. Lee

    I’ve always been a fence sitter. Trying to see every side of every situation. Some situations have 2 sides, some have an infinite number of sides. The important thing is to always jump off of that fence on the side of right. And only you can decide what that is!
    Stay Motivated! Keep Motivating! Do the Do! Keep on Keeping on! Move Forward! Plow Ahead!

  16. JIm MIlko

    Short and to the point. Excuses have no place in our life. All excuses do is delay the inevitable. Dream Big and Grow Rich…….

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