A lot of people don’t consider this, but let me explain a big concept to you: Every opportunity you have in life isn’t always the right or best thing for you to do.
Seriously? Yes! Believe it or not, you have choices in life!
It’s hard to believe, but some people don’t know that you get to decide. Did you know that? You get to make choices about what you are doing and where you are going. You get to pick.
Every decision is a decision. Every non-decision is actually a decision. Everything you do or don’t do is a decision. When my phone rings and I look down, I either take the call or I don’t. Either way, I’ve made a decision. I think about it and I either act or don’t. Regardless, my action or lack of action is a decision.
Maybe you want to go to a meeting. On this particular night, your wife and family want you to do something at home and you are left with a choice. Now, you have to decide what is the right thing to do. Maybe you aren’t sure what to do, so you go to the meeting because you couldn’t decide. That was a decision.
People think that is confusing. I have to get up and do stuff. That’s how you become successful. You get up and do things. You get things accomplished. When people see you doing that they react differently to you. They see you doing stuff and it gives them a pull.
People react to courage and they follow people that make courageous decisions to go no matter what. People that stay up a little later and get up a little earlier. Now, is making phone calls courageous? YES!!! Why? It is because you call people up and they tell to never call them again. You stay calm and keep talking like a warrior in battle as bullets are flying by with chaos all around them. Some people call that dumb. I call it being dumb enough to make it big. You just have to take it and move on. No big deal. Just making calls and trying to help people.
People will try to influence you in a negative way. It might even be loved ones or your family. It could be neighbors or whoever, but you make the decision to keep doing and moving forward. Decide to do what you have to do and try to get their thinking out of your head. That’s courageous.
How about the decision to be committed or to be uncommitted? You are one of the two. You can control it. It’s one of the two. You are committing to something no matter what. I try to pick a direction I’m going and get after it.
When I decide something ahead of time I tend to follow through on it. If I tell myself I’m going to read tonight then I will probably do it. If I tell people that I’m going to read, I’m more likely to do it. If I book a flight, then I’m probably not going to miss the flight. I’ve spent time and money, so I’ve got skin in the game and I’m going to make my flight. See, there’s a price to pay for everything. It could be money, sleeping less, etc. You have to ask yourself this: What are you trying to accomplish? Decide that and get focused on that.
I’ve told many of you how to make excuses when you are dealing with people that are trying to get you off track. You can say things like, “I’m sorry but I have a previous engagement.” You have to learn how to put off or delay dumb actions. Put off or find ways to avoid associating with people that are doing the wrong things, have poor attitudes and pathetic relationships. Put it off. Say things like, “How about next week? I’m tied up this week.”
How long do you do this? How about forever! At least put it off until later, so that you don’t have to do it now.
Here’s a common situation: couple is married and the wife wants the husband to stay at home all the time and still make money. The husband doesn’t want to do that. Instead of compromising, they get a divorce! What the heck? Can we not find a solution to this and do something in between those two extremes?
Here’s another one: Let’s say an uncle dies and you are trying to decide if you are going to the funeral. What if you weren’t close to him and hadn’t seen him in years? Are you going to drive a pretty good distance, take food, cry, mourn, etc.? Other people might say don’t go, don’t think about them and don’t care about the family. Can we meet somewhere in the middle? It doesn’t have to all the way left or all the way right. Hey, could we send a gift and pray for them. Could we call them? Could we go to the funeral and then come back home right after? There are options in the middle that are better solutions than the crazy extremes. The key is that you are in control of the decision. Don’t let others decide for you.
I ask people if they would go to a meeting in another part of the country every week, hire people and help them get started with The Alliance? They say, “No! I’m not going up there.” Hey, can we do something in the middle instead? Maybe run an ad and go one time? It doesn’t have to be the extremes. Can you control what you do and avoid the extremes? You’ve got choices and options. Think it through. Think about the worst-case scenario and the best-case scenario … look at the options in between those too.
What you can control is more than you realize. What you can control impacts your future and your life more than you think. During those hyped-up moments, work on making decisions that are good for the rest of your life. If you can get good at making decisions and focusing on the outcome, then your life will be a whole lot easier.
Stay committed or stay uncommitted. You get to pick. You get to choose. I have to make decisions all the time. If I didn’t, I would start going backward. Get your mind in a positive place and start making better decisions to do better things in your life. Deciding to take better actions will change your whole life.
I know this: you either have reasons or results. People think I’m talking about excuses. No! I’m talking about legitimate reasons or legitimate results. It’s that simple.